Having it all? I'm not having it.
At least not for the next seven-and-a-half weeks.
I am not sure what woman decided that women should "have it all" — work and family, that is — at the same time. Whoever she is, she deserves a kick in the pants. "Having it all" is a near-impossible task, and I have been doing it for almost sixteen years. I'm exhausted. I worked through my last anniversary. I missed my daughter's last concert. I miss most after-hours work outings getting my kids to karate. Every day is a juggling act. Some days, I don't feel like I do either work or home very well.
I'd be willing to bet that most women who "have it all" could say the same thing. The working moms I see at after-school pickup are as ragged as me.
I have been pretty lucky, though. I work for a great company. I get to do great work and leave at four to pick my kids up from school. It's worked for sixteen years, and now, I'm getting a six-week sabbatical. But I am not going to use the time to perform community service or travel around the world. I am using it for me.
No deadlines. No traffic to race through. Finally, cleaning the house will make it to the top of the list. Maybe I'll even be able to "date" my husband again. Sure, I'll have to break up a few (well, probably more than a few) fights between the kids. But other than that, I have no real plans. I've worked since I was sixteen, so this will be new to me. (Maternity leave doesn't count.)
I won't stop thinking about advertising, though. It's in my blood. I'll notice my clients' competitors' ads. I'll be influenced by new, interesting work I see. I'll stay away from email, but I won't stop reading my favorite web design blogs. I'll Twitter. Watch a lot of movies. Paint. Who knows what else?
I'm looking forward to not "having it all" for a little while.
Thanks, PARTNERS+simons. See you August 25th.




Comments
Congrats Nancy! Enjoy that sabbatical! I hope it helps to refresh and recharge your batteries. The gift of a wonderful opportunity like this usually results in a NEW AND IMPROVED partner.
Everyone needs to reset the life button once in awhile. It would be great if more employers were like P+s.
Best wishes!
Posted by: Chris | July 9, 2008 10:47 AM
Thanks for the comment Chris. I'm proud to work for such a great company.
Posted by: Nancy Carle | July 22, 2008 11:17 AM